As We Get Older


As We Get Older is a blog and a podcast where we explore ideas, advice, and information to ready men for the road ahead, no matter what it brings.

Sometimes life is a bowl of cherries with extra whipped cream on top. Sometimes it’s a big fat dirt sandwich. Most of the time it fluctuates somewhere in between. If you’re older than about 35 you know life can be a messy business. How well you handle it depends largely on what you know, your intellectual and emotional intelligence, your mental toolset.

As We Get Older is for men who want to learn how to get more control of their life and build a better future. It’s about helping you learn to avoid the worst of life, if possible, and learning to deal with dirt when you can’t. It’s also about sharing what you have learned with other men who have not been through what you have, yet.

We will review books and research reports and talk to people from all walks of life who have lived a little and have something valuable to share – their experience. We will talk with people you can learn from. And we might even talk to some more well-known people once in a while if they have some practical advice to share.

Our mission is to help you have a better journey, to give you a compass and a map that will help you build the future you want, not the one life will try to dump on you. We will talk to each other and work our way through. We hope you enjoy the ride.
Here’s mud in your eye.


What About Bob?

Hi, I.m Bob,

My brother and I were born in 1956. Our biological Mom was very young and bio-Dad was her college professor. Oops! So there an ad was placed in personal section of the local newspaper – “NOTICE: Baby to be born in January. Write us if you are interested in becoming the parents.” They did things different back then. So my identical twin brother and I were adopted together after Phyllis and Bill won us in what Mom always referred to as a letter writing contest. By the way, our doctor on our birth certificates is Dr. Dokter. Ha!

Our adoptive Mom (Phyllis) was from New Zealand and met our adoptive Dad (Bill) during WWII. After the war, Mom worked at the Merry-Go-Round store in Northgate Mall and Dad owned a tavern on 1st Ave near Pike Place Market in Seattle. They divorced when we were eight years old. Mom remarried and we moved to Bellevue, WA. Our first adoptive Dad was shot and killed in his tavern by his girlfriend when we were eleven. Our second adoptive Dad (Don) died of a brain tumor when we were twenty. Mom died in 2001 of pneumonia after a long struggle with Alzheimer's. I mention these events to let you know I have had life bite me in the butt a few times. Just like you.

I live in the greater Seattle area, went to the University of Washington, was a Lieutenant in the Kent, WA fire department, and have a masters degree in Emergency and Disaster Management. I left the fire department after 10 years and did a long stint in public safety technology consulting. I have written two books nobody has ever heard of and authored a blog section for Emergency Management magazine for a while. I love to write. Now if I could just get good at it.

Some of my other jobs include ski instructor, capturing killer whales, software sales, Microsoft partner manager, mortgage broker, entrepreneur, dishwasher, sailing instructor, technology consultant to fire and police departments, and leadership and communications skills instructor. I have been bankrupt and a multi-millionaire. I have had to reinvent myself a few times.

I have been a certified behavior analyst, have a B.S. in Biology from the University of Washington, a Master of Arts degree in Emergency and Disaster Management from American Public University, and a bunch of other certifications and stuff that really doesn't matter. I love to learn.

I had open heart surgery when I was 46. The surgeon said I was supposed to be dead. My left coronary artery was completely shut off. Most people don't survive that. After four bypass graphs and months of rehab (who's turn is it to walk the Bob today?) I was feeling pretty frisky and very lucky and very grateful. Since then I have had my right knee replaced and four surgeries on my right shoulder. Yes, I can throw from home to second which is 127 feet 3 3/8 inches… sometimes with one or two bounces.

My current sports passion is baseball. I am the general manager and one of the catchers for the Mavericks baseball team. We play in a 55+ senior league and we play hardball with 90 foot bases, uniforms, umpires, and nobody in the stands. It's just like regular baseball only in super slow motion.

I have been married twice and the last one has stuck for 30 years (so far). I also have two very wonderful grown children.

A Brief History of Bob:

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